So I know that despite the classic portrayal of an autist being someone who is asexual, many of us are at the opposite end of the scale. Yet if you search for Lemmy communities, there are several for asexual folk and none for hypersexual folk. Is there any good resources for us to rant/support each other/talk about our struggles? If it were specifically for neurodivergent folk, that would be a great bonus.
By hypersexual, do you mean people who have/desire lots of sex, or people who are fixated on sex and related subjects as a topic of interest?
For me, it’s more of the latter. Unfortunately there’s no help out there I’ve been able to find. Best advice I have is to find the least unhealthy ways to satisfy those feelings and keep them pointed in that direction. In my case, that’s been picking up art as a hobby and using it to illustrate weird kinky shit, and finding a select few people to share it with.
I’ve also found the modern social landscape, both online and irl, to be weirdly regressive on sexual topics. I’m not going around flying that flag per se, there’s a time and a place, but people having weird kinks is a common topic of public ridicule.
In my case at least, an unmanageable sex drive. As in if I could spend all day every day having sex, I would only stop to replenish my electrolytes or pass out from exhaustion.
Yeah, that’s definitely different from my experience, mine’s more of a “get obsessed with a specific kink and see how far down the rabbit hole for it can go, rinse+repeat” thing. My actual sex life is pretty mundane, I have a stable relationship and we get it on a couple times a week, work schedules permitting.
Maybe it would help to involve other people if you can find them and your SO is open to it, although talking about sexual topics is pretty different from engaging in sexual acts. Mine isn’t really into the same stuff I am from a fantasy perspective, so I have some specific friends that I go to for those topics.
Unicorns are hard to come by, but she has mentioned it a few times. Difficulty with that is it’s hard to schedule a 4 hour depravity session around the constraints of having a full time job and also more than the average number of children (yes it turns out there are consequences).