It’s really strange bc before like 2016 there were a lot of things no one cared about and wasnt being as gendered anymore that have suddenly really come back?

Like it’s funny, I have nonbinary friends who have never had their presentation be a thing really say in the past few years that a hair style or a way they dress flags people as “an other” and suddenly bigots are trying to make guesses about what’s between their legs along with supportive but ignorant ppl making assumptions but accepting corrections about pronouns and stuff.

But like i know a feminine presenting cis woman who was asked if she was trans because she has a shaved head. Like other than that she’s completely gender conforming. She’s shaved for a better part of a decade and lives in a progressive place and it NEVER came up before two years ago.

I mean i cant be mad for her cause it was a progressive person asking who is also queer, right? But also it was so strange to us both that it just takes ONE (to me minor) flag now? For ppl to make guesses? A shaved head hadnt been as gendered for a while!

Then there’s ppl like… I have a close friend (was living in the south us at the time) who had their friends taking literal bets bc the friend group “couldn’t decide” what their AGAB was. Why it matters doesn’t make sense to me to this day!

Idk what the total solution is, but really gendering things never has made sense to me. As ive gotten older i find my gender presentation is neither/both and the details of which are solely for anyone i am in an intimate relationship with lol