Is asking questions about basic things an ADHD thing? I thought it was an autism thing.

I swear, we are the ultimate scapegoats for bullies. I’ve been going through a similar experience for a while. It’s like people try to find anything that they can criticize and use it to shame me rather than have an open and forthcoming discussion to address it. Being autistic, we’re always guessing how to do things in a world where everyone else knows the rules, which are meant to be followed, and which are meant to be violated.

Au: You’re violating a rule.

NT 1: Yeah, but it’s okay. It’s not a big deal because it doesn’t harm anyone and everyone else is doing it.

Au: violates rule and gets caught because they thought that’s normal and expected

NT 2: That is a rule. Why did you violate it?

Au: Because it doesn’t harm anyone and everyone else is doing it

NT 1 & 2: So now you’re snitching too?

Here’s another one. You learn a rule and apply it in the situation you learned it. However, you didn’t know it was applicable in other similar situations, so you don’t apply it. People get upset with you because they have seen you apply it in the first situation, so you “should have known” and therefore need to be punished. 😮‍💨

I don’t care how you walk, talk, or breathe. You be you. Don’t accept other people’s shame being dumped on you. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself, tell them that you don’t like what they do that makes you feel bad. If they keep doing it, stop being around them as much as possible. It’s not your responsibility to help others process their shame. You are your main responsibility and already working with a disadvantage. Make sure you’re okay ❤️

I would censor the work f–k because it might come off like you’re being passive aggressive and aren’t really trying. Reminds of the time the actor that played Burke on Grey’s Anatomy called the actor that played George a fa—t, then made a public apology saying he’s sorry he called him a fa—t and that he wont say fa—t again, except he said the word. People got even more pissed, and I think he was fired from the show. 🤦

I previously made a comment on how I’ve learned to apologize if you’re interested.

This is genius! thanks for sharing 🙂

you don’t care about your produce! 🫢

Bupropion is the only antidepressant that works for my mood. The SSRIs and SNRIs make me feel numb and dumb, so I hate them. However, bupropion doesn’t have any noticeable impact on my adhd. I gotta take ritalin for that.

auties usually spot other auties easily

right, me too! 😁

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Thanks! I hope it takes off :D

thank you!

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i cannot understand why anyone could sleep at night knowing their value in society is 0.

You gotta switch the cables. I’m assuming right now that you only want what you deserve through your labor. If you have extra or someone else is in need, you would rather they have it than you horde it or gain some luxury. Switch the cables so that what you value is hoarding and having luxuries without any merit. If someone else needs something, your power to not give leftovers to them is confirmation of your self-worth.

Thank you! I am doing better 🙂

Things were cool at my house until my dad showed up when I was in late elementary. Slowly, everything started going to crap. Everyone started fighting and it felt like I was caught in the middle of two social camps that were fighting each other. As things worsened, I started being out of the house more and learning to grow up from friends and the streets. Since those places can be unhealthy sometimes, I would get into trouble doing what I thought was normal. In one of those incidents, I was in severe danger from strangers that were trying to kill me and my best friend. The issue was resolved when someone that saw what was happening called the police who even showed up with a helicopter to find the perpetrators (they got away). My friend and I ran from the cops too because we thought we were in trouble. When I got home the next day after hiding all night, my parents didn’t believe a word I said. Instead, they thought I was having gay sex (wtf, right?) because one of the kids I was hiding with was openly gay. This turns into a huge battle with all the adults yelling at each other. They start yelling at me with threats of punishments. I leave and just hide in my bedroom while the adults lose their minds on each other. My parents tell me that I can’t shut my bedroom door anymore. The day goes by and nothing happens. It’s time to go to sleep, but I hadn’t been punished yet, so I’m thinking something is pending. I used to have no problem sleeping, but this time I can’t fall asleep because I keep waiting for someone to come in since I wont hear the door opening. I figure that if I set up the guitar as described and leave the windows slightly open, it would serve as a warning, wake me up, and maybe I could yell for help and to call police. I’m able to fall asleep, but the guitar drops and I wake up. I stayed frozen waiting to see what will happen. The silhouette freezes too. They slowly and quietly lean the guitar up properly on the wall, walk out, and close the door. I stay awake for the rest of the night, but nothing happened. From then on out, I had mentally divorced my family and saw them as people I had to tolerate and serve as an example of what not to be like.

Thanks for asking.

I get it tho. When I was a teenager, things got so bad in my house that I used to booby trap my bedroom door. I’d place an acoustic guitar on its head with the body up and leaning on the door. If the door was opened, the guitar would fall over and make a loud at noise waking me up and alerting the entire house. It saved me once, and then they never tried again.

I have friend that said it 13 years ago. If you wanna be rich, make yourself the middle man. You can try to open a public company, market it, find investors, and hopefully you’ll eventually run a profit and the stock value will go up. Or, you can be an investor making money by buying stock that provide good dividends and go up in value. But, the best position is in the middle exchanging the stock. You don’t have to convince others to invest and run a company that is successful when competing with others. You don’t have to investigate and guess which companies will be profitable while competing with millions of other investors, banks, and AI. Nope. You just sit back and relax while people fight each other on the battlefield field you created.

Those are the people that make it. They insert themselves in a situation where others fight but they win regardless of who else wins.

• Ford or Chevy? Oil wins
• Chrome or Edge? Google wins
• Facebook or Instagram? Meta wins
• Plaintiff or defendant? Lawyers win
• Pay off home loan or foreclose? Lender wins
• Thousands of IPOs? Market-makers win
• England or France? Rothchilds win
• Russia or Ukraine? Military industrial complex wins

Topic: Mother cries as she leans over her late child’s coffin

Lemmy: Maybe this wouldn’t have happened if the murderer had access to better education and mental health

The next gen is gonna be making fun of Gen Z by saying “formally Twitter” and Millennials are finally going to win.

This is a good starting point! Thank you very much