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Cake day: 2023年12月26日

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  • Issue is, salaries are not enough, some credit cards give great benefits and cashbacks, and sadly the credit system is being exported to other countries, it is no longer an US only problem.

    First time I tried to get a mortgage, I got rejected by multiple banks due to my “inexistent credit footprint”, which was just the local flavor of a credit score. The banks even offered to give me credit cards, encouraging me to use them and NOT pay them off to prove I had a good payer behavior. Got lucky and found a credit union who didn’t ask for any of that but had higher interest rates, so lose-lose situation.



  • I had the opposite experience, pansexual but homoromantic, neraly married a woman I thought I loved, sex was amazing and I thought what I felt was love through the eyes of an autistic person, but after she broke up with me and I finally had my first boyfriend, everything clicked.

    You can’t miss what you have never had, but once you discover your true self, there is no going back.







  • Because it serves a genuine function, because the process poses an unnecessary risk, because there is no way to know how big the penis is going to get when the kid grows up, and that is part of the reason for the foreskin, to have a ton of give so it doesn’t happen like it did to my ex. He got circumcised as a newborn, and by the time he finished puberty, his penis grew far more than the leftover foreskin, so he wasn’t even able to have full erections without a tremendous amount of pain and sometimes, even tearing.








  • No kids, ever. I can hardly take care of myself, can’t even be trusted with a plant, and I find them disgusting. Who will care for me when I am old? I have worked long and hard with the elderly, and knowing how many of them were abandoned by their families, it is easy to see that my odds are better investing the money I would use to raise a child, in a retirement fund instead.

    But with how broke I am, I am not even getting to do the retirement fund thing, so yay. Glad I didn’t let an ex change my mind when I was earning a lot back in the day, because those jobs got “optimized” and outsourced.


  • Exactly. My mom was sick a few years ago so I went back to my hometown for an extended visit. I certainly won’t bunk with her and her new husband, and conveniently, people don’t include hotels in their polarized war against landlords.

    The best option for me was to just rent a room at a boarding house, which was both cost effective and close to my mother’s place.

    The issue is not landlords themselves, it is the capitalism, the unrestrained corporate greed and the lack of very steep taxes for the owners of multiple homes.



  • Thank you for saying this, as a straight looking gay guy, who started going to gay bar as the “straight ally friend”, because I wasn’t ready to come out due to all the homophobic culture I was raised in, those welcoming gay spaces were my lifeline. They gave me a place to start freely being who I am, who I was so desperately trying to hide and deny.

    People like you are the reason I have the courage now, to have a boyfriend, and hold hands on our way to the market, so thank you.