Lumelore (She/her)

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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • Did you see what I put in paren at the bottom?

    Also I strongly disagree with the statement that there is no connection between men wearing makeup and them being secure in their masculinity.

    … there is a connection between men who won’t wear makeup because … their insecurity in masculity.

    This is exactly why I like men who are into makeup, because they’re not going to be insecure in their masculinity most likely.

    For me this comes from having lots of bad experiences with masculine presenting men and it takes me a long time to feel safe around a guy, but if they are more feminine presenting I feel much safer around them because all the feminine guys I know have never done anything to make me feel unsafe.


  • Interesting, I’m wondering if that’s a generational difference or if it’s because I tend to hang around other queer people since I haven’t really experienced that with women.

    I’m a trans woman and I wasn’t out when I was in highschool but I did present myself as a somewhat feminine man then and there were quite a few guys that I upset by simply existing, however women were more interested in talking to me after I started presenting more femininely. Although I think this is because they thought I was a gay man, and thus felt safer around me.



  • As a young person who grew up on the internet, with no parental oversight, I can say it’s because there is a lot of right wing bullshit online that media companies love to push on their users. When I was a tween I got suckered into it hard when one day youtube decided to put mgtow videos in my recommended feed. I never initially searched for them. I did eventually get out of it, and I’m not entirely sure how, but I remember as a 13yo seeing trump in 2016 bully that disabled reporter and it really put a sour taste in my mouth. And then over the next few years that led to me leaving catholicism, becoming a socialist, and realizing I’m transgender and very gay.

    With me being transgender and pan, that adds another aspect to it, because I think I knew subconsciously that I was queer as a tween, but growing up in an environment where I was repeatedly told those things were wrong led to me feeling absolutely miserable about myself, and misery loves company. And this also makes me wonder how many nazis are queer and don’t even realize it or refuse to recognize it.