I haven’t been on FetLife in a while either. Definitely was a good spot for a while. Thanks for the suggestions!

Considering you went straight to cost, the vibe I’m getting from this is you’d be happier if they did replace the bed. Along with everything else.

I don’t know how old you are (you sound on the younger side), but I can tell you this is something that will get worse as you get older, not better. I’m someone that used to have a jealousy/insecurity streak with my partners and I worked on it. Something to consider.