I didn’t realize there was deep lore in an egg_irl post, i took it as the comic it was.

Without that background information, (that is not included unless i stalk the OP, which doesn’t feel like it would endear anyone to my participation) it feels close to a comic could reinforce the “you can’t win trying to be supportive to queer people these days” energy since there’s nothing clear about there being a boundary made by the other person in the comic? Maybe there’s something i missed on the lemmy ui, I’m willing to admit!

As an older queer i am not quite sure when we decided clothing meant anything (again) since growing up it was something we already tried to work on in the queer community, just look into lesbian spaces and their attempts to uncouple femininity from being required to dress up. Have binary identities and enforcing trans people to present a particular way backfired into hyper gendered expressions being required?

Another question is how can the community help individuals vulnerable to invalidation of parts of their identity? I know everyone needs support as a whole and in general in their lives. The ability to stand strong in yourself in the storm can’t be manufactured without a foundation, and how do we help newbies find that with the atmospheres as tense as they are, even in queer spaces?

Is that question really “in good-faith” to “that law doesn’t apply in my country”?

Buuuut having them on your truck makes “deez nutz” jokes funnier!

I guess if the person knows about the truck nuts, that is.

Or if you’re at your truck when you make the joke…

I’ve been pretty lazy about changing stores since they had the easiest pick up i had found in my area, but i guess this is the ass kick i need to make sure i never go back.

Sucks they own almost all the groceries in my area. But i can trust that it’s not a monopoly, right?

Groceries prices deeeeefinately aren’t inflated. Nope. All good here.

Worst thing I didn’t realize from being young is: keeping people around who are going to eventually leave no matter what cuz they didn’t actually respect me isn’t worth it.

Show them enough respect to get what you need out of them but don’t be friendly with them because they don’t actually care about you and none of it’s real. They’re being social friendly just enough but it’s not real and they don’t really care about you.

Don’t get emotionally invested and don’t let people close to you who don’t know you and who you know cause you pain, otherwise you’re just causing self harm to not be alone and the scars will ruin close social relationships. Colleagues should ne at arm’s length you, can tell them that they’re being inappropriate, you can just walk away you, can ignore them, be cold to them give them social situations to make them feel uncomfortable like they do you and cut them out.

I promise you in 2 years agter graduation none of them will probably be around. None of them will probably helped you with a job (networking it almost exclusively better with older people in the industry NOT your own rivals for jobs).

And you’re going to have spent time juggling relationships that were a waste of your time and that they never cared. Carry around scars for your future partners and friends, ways you wont trust because of a casual acquaintance. It’s as bad as having a cheating partner for causing you to mistrust and feel unsable to force yourself to be friendly with people who don’t care about you.

None of what they say matters to them or they even process it in social situations. They dont put themselves into your shoes.

I’m it feels like everything to you and so it feels like it’ll be everything to them, but no they won’t remember you for anythings but a stereotypes they formed in their head 2 months after you haven’t been around. Then a year later they may have the vaguest recollection.

Only you will remember this in 10 years. Act with respect for yourself, not them and not what you’ve been told they’ll be good for.

Because you won’t lie at night wishing you had given more of yourselves to others. You wont wish you made yourself more vulnerable, more easy to hurt by letting cold and thoughtless people into a close place where they can hurt you. You’ll wish you had walked away rather than cause wounds you’ll never be able to heal.

Is that the take away from the comic? I see it as more someone trying to explore through clothing and someone saying theyw would be supportive?

Are we so defensive we can’t even have that anymore? Are we unable to discuss gender presentation and identity detached from transition? What about nonbinary identities? Some people explore that and transition, some don’t.

Are we really supposed to be regressive and call it self protection? Are we at the “respectable transgender” era along with “I’m gay but I don’t know about this trans stuff” already?

Does he currently get money if you use JavaScript like the Brave CEO gets for his products?

On mobile it’s the three dots then the install button that has an image of a cellphone?

Before I was a ten, my mother was desperate to leave her home state and met a man online/a romantic post, moving states away. Had to be 1997, 1998.

Where i grew up no one had my values or my interests. My spouse of 10+ years i met on a free MMO back in 2010s we both happened to play and got to know each other there, then after a year chatting daily on cam, phone calls, and dms we met up.

So “meeting online” is really vague and can mean a lot of things. It’s also gone from being new, some dating apps may help people connect, to being enshittified. Never used it for dating but OK cupid WAS ok at looking for like minded friends for like a second.

But people sharing hobbies and falling for each other probably will always happen even as the apps suck.

I wouldn’t have found someone geographically near me with my same morals and hopes and wants out of life. I have never found “my parents and your parents birthed us here and so maybe we should get married” to be enough common ground.

The only people in real life i have met who have ever complained about small talk were in the context of “i do not care enough about [the people around me] to pay attention to anything [they] say not directly relevant to me/my hyperfocus” and i just realize they’re the “everyone else is an npc” crowd and let them be sulky all the time and hate every social thing they have to do, and I’ll have a fine time chatting with the cashier about her day! These are always the same people who say everyone else is boring, not that they have given anyone the time of day.

Tbh if they see others like that im happy to not give them my time and show interest in them either. All social is give and take on every level and those people are always takers. We’re where we are now because of people who can’t bother to care about the lives of others.

I just checked it out last night, i had a feeling it was a fun project for the actors, regardless of the overall quality, i wanted to see how they enjoyed performing.

To be honest i didn’t hate it. It was longer than it should be, sucked itself off while also having awkward theater kid feeling moments. But i didn’t find it as disjointed as everyone talked about, if you watch some media that’s figurative you’ll be fine, it’s mostly more or less just a linear narrative following the main characters.

Honestly it wasn’t the worse use of my time, for me. My partners watched with me and one left feeling frustrated at the conclusion (no spoilers) and felt their time was wasted, while the other just could not have their attention held, there were a lot of ‘i am deep’ shots that if you dont enjoy that you just wont.

All that is to say I didn’t pay anything for it, so i had less reason to come in with any expectations. Oh, and I never found I liked the Godfather or his other “classics” so i came in expecting an old man’s passion project and that’s what i got. The actors felt like they had a blast so i couldn’t help watching the whole thing for them.

All and all, if you can see it for free and appreciate it for what it was (a fun bad movie) i think it’s fine. If anything i found the ending to be a bit saccharin for a movie that tried to be dark? Some of the parts wrapped up ridiculously im still kind of stunned.

I think the issue people arguing with you that you don’t seem to get is that not everyone does want it to stop.

You seem blind to that reality that there is a large portion who arent even looking or talking that people are dying.

Who think what is going on and continuing is fine, or even good or right. And those people are in the positions to even try to limit any of it, and wont.

You’re not arguing honestly if you really claim the reason no one in power speaks against it is because it’s too hard? That seems really unlikely doesn’t it? “It’s difficult and we’re looking at legal options” and “we will continue to arm and defend them” are wholly different.

I tried to find the data, it looks like the financial times evaluated data from August 2023 and made that chart? This is apparently the survey source with a lazy google: https://wwwn.cdc.gov/nchs/nhanes/continuousnhanes/default.aspx?Cycle=2021-2023 cause i was curious too