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Cake day: August 15th, 2023

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  • 8 to 6 is a normal eight hour work time though… That’s 8 hours of paid time, that’s a full hour lunch and two half hour breaks. That’s a standard work day. I don’t know for sure that’s what’s happening, but that’s not the giant red flag you’re making it out to be.

    Canada has really good worker protection laws, I don’t think you need to worry so much 😅 I mean at the end of the day you can do whatever you want, but it’s pretty naive to get this bent out of shape about it if you’re not also putting the same energy into worker rights in general. There is absolutely nothing to suggest that any kind of wage theft is going on in terms of overtime pay. It seems like you’re just making up that accusation out of nowhere.



  • From the pictures you posted in the comments, I can tell that you have two SATA drives and one IDE drive.

    Here’s a combo option that’ll do both types of drives. I have no experience with this particular model, but it’s what I would buy in your situation.

    Hard Drive Docking Station, Tccmebius TCC-S868-US USB 3.0 to 2.5 3.5 Inch SATA IDE Dual Slots External HDD Enclosure, for 2.5" 3.5" IDE SATA I/II/III HDD SSD https://a.co/d/3tsrGon

    IDE Drives can be slightly more complicated than SATA, So if you’re having trouble with the IDE drive, Read the drive dock manual carefully because sometimes those docks will require a certain setting on the drive.

    The SATA drives though are super simple. Plug in your dock, plug the drive into the dock, turn the dock on, and the drive should just show up on the computer.

    IMPORTANT: IF YOU SEE SOMETHING THAT SAYS THE DRIVE MUST BE FORMATTED IN ORDER TO BE USED, DO NOT FORMAT IT

    Formatting it will erase the data, if the computer is trying to prompt you to format the drive either the data has been corrupted and is already lost, or it’s not being mounted correctly. Possibly because the drive is in a format that your computer does not recognize. There are things you can do if this happens to you, but I’m not going to go into the details of that now. You’ll most likely not have to worry about that and if you do, you can come back and ask for additional help then.


  • Going with the flow is such an important skill that more parents need to put more of a focus in teaching. It’s all about making sure that your response is a realistic way of attaining your goal in the situation.

    If I’m talking to someone else and trying to help them through a situation like they say, ask them to think for a minute if getting angry will do anything at all to help the situation they find themselves in.

    “You are absolutely right to be upset about this situation, and if you need to take a minute to feel that rage, go right ahead. Once you’re ready though, let’s take a deep breath, remember that we can’t change what’s already happened and instead be strategic and intentional about what we do from here to correct for what just happened”

    Being able to gain control of yourself is a skill that requires practice. Intrusive thoughts and feelings and emotions happen to everyone, the trick is just recognizing when it’s happening. When you recognize that it’s happening, take a deep breath and shake it off. For me that means just slowing down and being much more methodical and intentional about anything that I say or do until that fight or flight mode response disengages. Be conscious of the fact that my reflexes cannot be trusted when I am in fight or flight mode.















  • The few people I know with this issue fall into one of two categories.

    1. Access issues. There are some kinds of road blocks accessing a quality shower/bath. Which makes showering/bathing is an uncomfortable activity for some reason. Maybe it’s that their shower is really small and cramped, with a low quality shower head. Maybe it’s an issue where the water quality is low in the shower they have access to. Low quality water can have an odor people find uncomfortable, or it can dry out their skin making their skin feel dry even while under the water. People naturally avoid things that make them uncomfortable even subconsciously.

    2. Mental Health. I suffer from this occasionally. I love showering, it’s extremely relaxing, but for whatever reason the process of getting into the shower is such a huge barrier to overcome. You feel like absolute dog shit. You know that a shower would make you feel better, but for whoever reason no matter how hard you try, you cannot push through the transition of wanting to shower, to taking that first step towards doing it. And it all compounds together to make you feel like an even bigger piece of shit for not being able to do something so basic. Until eventually you’ve doom scrolled the entire day away and now it’s dark out and you’re tired and you’ve got a stress headache because you’ve barely even ate today either while you just stewed in your own filth.