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Cake day: 2023年8月3日

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  • Well, it sounds like you’re going after women out if your league because you think they’re attractive and that’s a valid choice. But it is a choice you’re making. It sounds like you could have intimacy if you lowered your standards or increased you attractiveness (gym etc). Or you could abandon dating to not have to face rejections.

    So I think the key to avoid bitterness is to reevaluate if the choice you are making still works for you if it brings up bitterness. Then you can either stay with your choice or switch, if you don’t think any other option brings less negative feelings.

    And if you choose the best option for you, there’s no need for bitterness.







  • Hah, I have the same shit. What’s the safeguards you recommend? I found that some frequently given tips do not work well for me, especially the recommendation to have a trip sitter/not to trip alone. I have some trust issues, and other people in the room make me anxious. Honestly I even avoid mirrors because the visual delay can make smiles look demonic. But a familiar and clean environment, plenty of water and fruit, good smells, chill music and a big bottle of seroquel (to always have the option to kill the trip when it’s too much) are very important for me to feel well prepared.