Yup?

You’re right on the mark there: I missed the point, a good number of times, which sent me into a downward spiral.

It took a good amount of time and help to aknowledge I was responsible for 90% of my suffering.

And I was countering your reply.

So you try, you get turned down. Does it hurt? Yes. Is it the end of the world? If anyone replies with “yes” that is a serious issue because it is not.

Getting a “no” for an answer is almost guaranteed. What is there to lose? Perhaps the lost “yes” for not trying.

It goes above and beyond being feminist.

If a guy doesn’t want to go out with a girl that actively asked him out, he is plain, basic, stupid.

Bullshit.

It’s a social - stupid - standing that states romantic/social/sexual advances must be started by the male part, which automatically relegates the female part to a passive/subdued part.

If you want someone, be bold. Doesn’t matter how you define yourself either.

I don’t really care if you are shy and can’t speak or any coping mechanism you may have built to justify your awkwardess. Just try.

Write a note. Have a mutual friend act as a liaison to help the first step. Write a letter. Blurt out the most incoherent speech you can muster. Then say it all again, only ten times slower. Send smoke signals. Use a parrot or a crow. But try.

It hurts a lot more to punish yourself for not trying, later in your life. Failure and rejection are part of it. Get used to it. Learn from it.

I respect that.

I’m in no fashion whatsoever a prude or a moralist - hey, I admit the concept is actually interesting! - but I’m too stern to allow myself to go to a boobies bar and enjoy it with no concern on my mind. Let’s call it a personal mental barrier.

That is actually a good thing?

No amount of consent in the world would aid in making me feel as not taking part of an exploitative arrangement. That would be my problem.

Regarding bad food… I’ve worked in hospitality. It can always be worst.

Don’t think I be able to motivate myself to go to one.

It’s one of those things that sounds nice in theory but would have disastrous outcomes if ever attempted.

Titty bar = topless bar?

I think I know the concept behind Hooters and other generic boobie bars (not an american) but I honestly don’t think I could go to one of those venues and, if I went, I have serious doubts I’d be able to enjoy myself or the meal.

They accomplish that and the already diminutive presence they have in the world will shrink even more.

The Greeks were isolationists. Each city-state considered itself the center of the world. It wasn’t on their list of priorities to share or spread their culture, unless it involved complete obliteration by conquest.

So, you’re talking about the people that emulated greek culture as they viewed it as more refined than their own?

And you are correct!

I own a few bottles of very old wine, that were gifted to me. Besides sentimental value, the bottles are worthless. But wine can be produced in order to be able to age in the bottle. I’ve seen wines, commercially available, capable of being stored and aged for up to 10 years. And as a kid, I visited a vineyard that had sealed barrels aging for more than 80 years. So, it is possible to age a wine and age it well but above all else wine is made to be enjoyed.

Next, try Portugal.

That sensitive of a palate is worth good money.

There is but I don’t think it’s worth the expense, even for a special occasion. I’d rather dive into more accessible wine and let guests discover a good wine for an affordable price than to pay more and risk passing an image that I’m trying to impress at all costs.

I read some comments and found one describing the wine as such, being enriched with caffeine. But wow!, nonetheless. That sounds just awful.