• Ech@lemmy.world
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    I feel like “mansplaining” has lost all meaning. It used to be about men going out of their way to correct someone that didn’t need correcting, particularly if they were wrong themselves, and most often with women. Now people use it on men just
saying things to anyone.

    I get that people are touchy on the subject, and I respect anyone’s right to not want or need help. I think how Mr. Solomon handled it was correct - ask if they want your input and respect their answer. It’d just be nice if people didn’t use cultural memes to dismiss others out of hand.

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        Because it’s a specific subset of patronizing, where it wouldn’t have happened if the target were not a woman.

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          What about the other way around, what’s that called? Like I’ve had women “mansplain” cooking to me because I am a guy.

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      I feel like “mansplaining” has lost all meaning

      Yeah, they misused the term.

      Mr. Solomon handled it was correct - ask if they want your input and respect their answer.

      You forgot step #3! Not whine about it online.

      He offered, they declined, we didn’t need to hear about it. The only reason we heard about it is because he felt slighted, or is trying to make some anti-feminist point. I’m sad that he felt bad, but not everyone is going to want the free stuff you’re offering. That doesn’t make them bad people, or feminism a bad movement.

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        It’s not anti-feminist to laugh at the irony of saying no to the MIB writer clarifying the origins of the story. It’s just a goofy story lol.

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            I was just saying that bc it seemed too cynical when you said we didn’t need to hear about it at all. I guess I don’t 100% know his intent either but there hasn’t been any reason to doubt it so far.

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        It’s a funny anecdote from the creator of Men in Black about being shut down for mansplaining the origins of Men in Black. Yikes.

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          Yup, and it’s fine, until the guy above me starts to comment on their choice of words.

          It can either be a funny note where we all laugh, or it can be an analysis of people’s word choice and reaction. When it’s the latter, his whining will be met by my whining, until all the whining stops :-P