Hi all,

I got my diagnosis of Asperger’s a couple of years ago after a trip to the mental health ward at age 31. I looked around at the time but a lot of the resources are either technical academic books aimed at psychologists or materials for children or parents. So I put it on the back burner and have just found time to start really diving into studying Autism and how I can better manage life and relationships.

I found this community and the “Field guide to Earthlings” book, which I have found really helpful and makes sense of a lot. But I am still looking for more resources for adults with late in life diagnosis’ and coming up dry.

Does anyone know of anything that could be helpful/relevant? Looking mostly for coping skills, conflict resolution, emotional regulation stuff.

I’m also terrible at social interactions because I’m constantly questioning and analyzing everything. Small talk or just relating to NTs has always been hard because a lot of that they do and are interested in just doesn’t make sense or I have absolutely no interest in.

I’m in a rural area and there’s no local resources at all. I’m also not too keen on a lot of Youtube videos because I find the over-the-top noise and crappy characters/personalities/acting that hosts/influencers put on incredibly off putting. But I do like Youtube videos that are done in an informative manner and not for entertainment value.

Thanks in advance 🙂

  • BOMBS@lemmy.worldM
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    11 months ago

    I was diagnosed earlier this year at 40 years old. For me, the most valuable resources on late diagnosis aside from this community have been autistic YouTubers. In particular, these three:

    • Autism from the Inside: He really breaks down things to simple terms that are easy to understand. Here’s his main late diagnosis video, though he has several, including one that is a conversation with another autistic person.

    • Mom on the Spectrum: She was diagnosed at ~31. She shares her journey and what she has learned. I didn’t find a main late diagnosis video, but she has several that cover the topic. Additionally, many of her videos also cover matters on late diagnosis.

    • Orion Kelly: I think he is quite intelligent. He seems like a strong advocate for autistic people. His videos have an especially assertive presentation. Here’s his late diagnosis video.

    Also, our chat room is a great place to ask any questions that may come up, especially those that you don’t think merit an entire post or you don’t want recorded in your Lemmy history. While it is a room that anyone with the link can join, the Helpful Support/Venting room in particular is encrypted, so only users that have joined the room at the time can see the comments. You can also join with a name that’s different from your Lemmy account so that the two wouldn’t be easily linked. We often have discussions on experiences and difficulties, and I’m seriously surprised how many we have in common. We then discuss ideas on how to help improve the matter.

    Edit: Also, welcome to the club!

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      11 months ago

      Cheers. I probably should check out the chat room. I’ve always tended to be a lurker but am trying to make more of an effort.