Idk, most people have things they find attractive/unattractive about people. If they specifically match with someone they find attractive, only to find out that the person has deceived them and they are actually unattractive (to them), I think it’s quite reasonable to express distaste about that.
Imagine the same scenario, but with smoking:
“In their profile they said they don’t smoke, but when I turned up to the restaurant they were smoking and their breath smelled like cigarettes! Yuck!”
The first answers the inevitable follow up question the second would lead to. “What did they lie about?”
Is it not more polite to be concise while conversing than being vague and dragging stuff out needlessly?
Obvs there is a massive difference between someone putting 5 pounds on and using a 3 year old photo when they were 100 pounds lighter…… you’re probably assuming the former while the latter is usually the case when they are blunt like this. And here’s a good hint, it’s usually the latter ones that people post, let’s be honest here.
You were also talking about being shallow, now it’s impolite? Make up your mind.
You realize the edit times are visible and my comment was edited well before you posted… yeah…?
What’s with the blatant lie? Don’t like having it pointed out that it goes both ways and need to lie? You’ve gone from shallow, to impolite and are now lying about editing a comment… you seriously need to make up your mind about what point you had here.
Would this exact scenario not play out in the reverse if it was man posting misrepresentating photos…? It sounds like you’re expecting men to be more polite than women in the same situations.
You’re making a mountain out of mole hill since you jumped to fat phobic when there is plenty of reason why someone would talk this way, it sounds like you’re someone who posts the latter photos and gets grouchy when called out.
And again, you started with shallow, make up your mind.
And so was their point about them being shallow and fatphobic… so sure yeah. And they decided to move their goal posts when questioned, but i am the bad person… sure…
Sure they did, it’s either that or they were personally offended by the comic.
What? There is a huge gap between saying “She turned out to be a fatty, YUCK!” and saying “My date lied about who they were”.
It’s about being polite… but I guess that sentiment is all but dead these days.
Idk, most people have things they find attractive/unattractive about people. If they specifically match with someone they find attractive, only to find out that the person has deceived them and they are actually unattractive (to them), I think it’s quite reasonable to express distaste about that.
Imagine the same scenario, but with smoking:
“In their profile they said they don’t smoke, but when I turned up to the restaurant they were smoking and their breath smelled like cigarettes! Yuck!”
Would you consider that shallow and phobic?
The first answers the inevitable follow up question the second would lead to. “What did they lie about?”
Is it not more polite to be concise while conversing than being vague and dragging stuff out needlessly?
Obvs there is a massive difference between someone putting 5 pounds on and using a 3 year old photo when they were 100 pounds lighter…… you’re probably assuming the former while the latter is usually the case when they are blunt like this. And here’s a good hint, it’s usually the latter ones that people post, let’s be honest here.
You were also talking about being shallow, now it’s impolite? Make up your mind.
You can be concise and still be respectful. Wouldn’t you agree?
You realize the edit times are visible and my comment was edited well before you posted… yeah…?
What’s with the blatant lie? Don’t like having it pointed out that it goes both ways and need to lie? You’ve gone from shallow, to impolite and are now lying about editing a comment… you seriously need to make up your mind about what point you had here.
Would this exact scenario not play out in the reverse if it was man posting misrepresentating photos…? It sounds like you’re expecting men to be more polite than women in the same situations.
You’re making a mountain out of mole hill since you jumped to fat phobic when there is plenty of reason why someone would talk this way, it sounds like you’re someone who posts the latter photos and gets grouchy when called out.
And again, you started with shallow, make up your mind.
You pulled this point out of your ass, they never once implied that they expected men to be more polite.
And so was their point about them being shallow and fatphobic… so sure yeah. And they decided to move their goal posts when questioned, but i am the bad person… sure…
Sure they did, it’s either that or they were personally offended by the comic.
Ah, the classic “States rights to do WHAT?”