• Anyolduser@lemmynsfw.com
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      I speak from experience when I say you will get much, much more attention from guys admiring your work and wanting to trade workout tips than from women wanting to hop into bed with you.

      A sense of humor and the ability to make interesting conversation will make up for a beer gut or scrawny arms.

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        I think there’s a line where it crosses over. Being “in shape” definitely makes you more attractive to women. Being anything above that definitely appeals more to men, and for many women even makes you less attractive

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          Yes. Generally speaking, women will find a person who is healthy and reasonably physically fit more attractive than someone who is obese or unhealthily thin.

          The problem is that the point of diminishing returns on actual body building happens pretty fast. Some women do prefer guys who are big piles of muscle, but that’s a minority.

          I learned that from experience. The reason “work out until somebody loves me” works is because you’re giving yourself time and learning to be a person who is fine being alone, not because of hours in the gym.

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            learning to be a person who is fine being alone

            This is rarely mentioned but very important. If you’re not okay with being alone you’ll be desperate, which is very unattractive to just about everybody.

            Once you’re fine with being alone the next step is finding someone who’s even better than being alone.

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        We aren’t talking about that though. What we’re talking about is hobbies. Money would be an even better Stat to have then both the things you mentioned.

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            That reply is pretty measured considering the topic of women’s preferences was already set. They weren’t going out of their way to hate on women.

            People can be pretty shallow creatures, men and women alike. So obviously, whilst money or beauty is not the be all and end all, it allows people to make a better first impression and pass some initial filters. Denying that is just deluding yourself.

            Obviously there are always going to be exceptions, some people are actively repulsed by wealth or the current beauty standards