• MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca
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    1 month ago

    I’m just confused. If it’s a double standard, what’s the opposing view that creates the double standard?

    I probably already know, but can someone help out my tired brain on this one? It doesn’t work too good right now.

    • finitebanjo@lemmy.world
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      1 month ago

      If a man calls women naturally insecure is it acceptable and does any response by women appear as needless badgering?

      Just genderswap the characters and nouns and see if it feels different to you as a result.

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        Just genderswap the characters and nouns and see if it feels different to you as a result.

        This is literally the best way to detect sexism. Like, would you say the same thing to someone of a different sex? Same thing with people who call assertive women “bitchy”. They would call a similar man “determined”.

        Of course this comic is just rage bait for men and women…

      • kofe@lemmy.world
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        1 month ago

        The first panel says men’s egos sometimes…

        I see no issue, but maybe I’m biased

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        1 month ago

        There is a social context that makes gender-swapping not entirely symmetrical. Men and women are not treated equally by a large portion of the population. These differences in treatment have repeating patterns and tendencies that create a bias that does not average out.

        Just to be clear, both men and women suffer from these biases. Think “provide for family”, “parental leave”, “children custody”, “real men don’t cry” for men. Women get the short end of stick in terms of autonomy and respect though…

        • finitebanjo@lemmy.world
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          1 month ago

          So some of your standards don’t apply to both genders? Somebody should make a term for that.

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            1 month ago

            They are not my standards. Describing reality does not mean you’re happy about it. And yeah, that’s sexism, patriarchy, whatever you want to call it.

      • MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca
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        1 month ago

        I’m too tired to wrap my brain around it at the moment, but you gave a valiant effort. I’m sure I’ll get it tomorrow after I’ve gotten my wake up juice.

        I think that’s a clear indication I need to take a break for the evening, so wherever you are and whatever time it is there, I bid you a good morning, afternoon, or goodnight… Whichever is most applicable.