[REPOST] Many years ago, I worked at a car dealership. The attached service garage was small and I was the only licensed mechanic.
I would occasionally have issues with male customersā they would second guess my diagnoses, watch me while I worked on their cars from the bay door, double check my work in the parking lot, etc.
I didnāt deal with customers directly and would often get my apprentice to pull cars in and out of the shop for me.
This morning in particular, we were busy. The lot jockey and apprentice were occupied helping wash cars for delivery and driving to a customerās house.
The service advisor left a work order and keys at the parts counter, and I went out the front through service to get the car. It was in for a service campaign, which was an update done with a scan tool. It takes about 10 minutes.
The customer was planning on waiting and was sitting in service. When he saw me with his keys in my hand, he immediately stood up, alarmed. I was hustling so I walked right by him and out the door. I missed the following conversation, according to the service advisor (also female):
Customer: āWho is that chick? Is she going to be working on my car? I donāt want her working on my car.ā
Advisor: āThe other tech is out at the moment, so itās going to be quite a wait until someone else can look at your car.ā
C: āThatās fine. Iāll wait for a guy. I donāt want that chick touching my car.ā
A, politely: āUnderstood.ā
Cue malicious compliance.
The advisor comes to let me know, and I pull the car out and put the work order and keys back on the counter.
Half an hour passes. The apprentice is still away, and I am happily working on something else, bringing other cars in and out.
The customer is now watching each and every person who comes through the door.
The high school co-op student comes in to get something signed. The customerās keys are still sitting on the desk. Itās been about an hour now.
C: āHeyā why hasnāt my car gone in yet? Canāt you get this guy to do it?ā
A: āNo, sorry. Heās just a co-op student so he is not allowed to drive the cars due to liability and insurance concerns.ā
C: āJust get someone else to bring the car in and he can do the work. This was supposed to take 10 minutes.ā
A: āSorry, sir. Heās just a high school student doing his co-op; heās not approved to perform warranty work. Only licensed techs and apprentices can do the recall.ā
The car jockey returns. The advisor hands the car jockey a different set of keys, and he brings yet another car into the shop for me. The customer is becoming incensed.
C: āIāve been sitting here for over an hour and Iāve watched 5 cars go in before mine. My appointment was for 8am, this is getting ridiculous,ā blah blah blah.
At this point he says that he literally doesnāt care who does the recall, but that it has to be a guy.
The service advisor starts listing off the names of the men who work in the dealership, then saying why they canāt perform the recall.
āWell thereās Harmon, but heās just the car jockey. He doesnāt know how to work on cars. Then thereās Jeet, but heās about 17. I wouldnāt want him doing the recall, personally. I guess we could ask Mikeā but Mike is the parts guyā he doesnāt know how to use the scan tool. The detailers are men, but they know NOTHING about carsā¦ ā
The customer is fuming at this point, and demands to talk to the service manager.
The manager comes out of his office, and guides the customer into the garage. Heās pretty old schoolā¦ lights up a cigarette standing at the end of my bay, and points at me.
āThatās my best technician. Those guys take orders from her. You can either wait for her to finish what sheās working on, and then you can ask if sheās still willing to do your work, or you can take your car somewhere else.ā
The guy was pretty shook up at this point and he took his car and left, two hours after heād first arrived. I donāt think we ever saw him again, which was not much of a loss, all things considered.
That manager in particular ALWAYS stuck up for me and took my side. The service advisor has this very dead-pan sense of humour. She knew full well it would easily be an hour before the apprentice would return from his errand, and that no one else could do the recall.
TL;DR: A customer brought his car in to the shop but when he saw me with his keys asked for a man to do the job instead. The service advisor happily agreed knowing full well there was no one but me to do the job. The customer ended up waiting two hours before leaving without getting his car fixed.
Iāve never understood anyone gatekeeping things they like. Wouldnāt you want to date someone who is into the things youāre into? I think itās changing with younger generations, but when I grew up I remembered hearing the same guys saying they wish they could date a woman who is into Star Wars and video games, but then would gatekeep any woman they met who was into those things as if they are just faking it.
At least sometimes, when you see a guy gatekeeping like that it means they think girls donāt like them because they like Star Wars or whatever. But in reality girls donāt like them because of personality flaws, or hygiene issues, or any other reason that is actually something they could fix if they cared to.
No, they donāt want matching hobbies. Insert an alternate hobby below as needed
I find this general mindset mad that modern mechanics are just āparts replacersā while they themselves also only replace parts. Yeah, the OEMs have spent decades troubleshooting and detailing repairs to make an entire encyclopedia of fixing the cause so you donāt have to.
There are things more important to match on than hobbies and interests
Also, Iām enough of me, so I do not want a pair too much like me