Yeah it’s easy to spot when you know what to look for. Even if they do try to hide it, which this guy did a shitty job at.
A 32 year old trans girl living without easy access to trans affirming care. On DIY-HRT for the last 6 years. She/they please, preferably she/her. Will not tolerate transphobia or bigotry of any kind.
Yeah it’s easy to spot when you know what to look for. Even if they do try to hide it, which this guy did a shitty job at.
He doesn’t consider himself a right-wing extremist, yet he hangs out on Truth social, and admitted to it himself. That tells us all we need to know about what kind of person he is. Most people who aren’t rather far right wing don’t hang out on truth social, a platform by conservatives, for conservatives.
Just as well, the Lemmy.world one was filled with transphobes and transphobia apologists. No progress to be made there unfortunately.
Lemmy.world might be a lost cause, maybe defederation of .world should be more widely considered…
That would explain a lot about the atmosphere there, the fact that there are so many people spouting thinly veiled transphobia and excusing transphobia.
I wish more instances would handle banning transphobes the way Hexbear does. No tolerance for Bigotry. Lemmy.world though seems to unfortunately be quite lenient about it ☹️
Most people who are transphobic know what they are doing, I’m certain the people I saw do. They’re not going to change, they need to be given the boot to protect our communities from becoming Nazi bars.
Agreed, this is a really bad take. I feel like this person is one of those people spreading thinly veiled transphobia and dogwhistles. That’s what that is, claiming we are self-centered, too sensitive, slowflakes, triggered, etc. That’s what they say to try and deny the legitimacy of our struggle, and the fact that in the end what we want is basic respect and recognition, they don’t even want to do that.
You are extremely self centered in how you see the world. There are as many people in the world and in the fediverse that would say kick you out because you don’t have their best interests at heart.
Wanting basic respect to not have my existence and rights debated or denied is not self-centered, kindly go fuck off if you think it is. If me being transgender and wanting basic respect, and not having my existence and identity denied doesn’t “have their best interests at heart” they can fuck off, because they are nazis and bigots who don’t have my or my minority brethren’s best interests at heart. This isn’t asking for special treatment, this is asking to not have my existence and identity denied. Something that cishet people take for granted.
Folks this is an example of one of these dogwhistles I pointed out, trying to claim that wanting basic respect as a person and the way I identify is somehow self-centered. Fact is LGBTQ people just want to exist without prejudice or having their existence and validity debated, that isn’t an unreasonable ask and yet there are people who will screetch and whine when simply being asked to show respect, not even told, asked.
Sure I can provide some examples:
I just wish they wouldn’t force their gender and pronouns onto other people
Translation: Doesn’t believe trans people are valid and doesn’t think people should respect our preferred pronouns
I just think that they need to keep it to themselves and leave kids out of it
Translation: Doesn’t believe we should exist in public, that we are a threat to children by virtue of being transgender.
It’s important to protect women’s spaces
Translation: Trans women shouldn’t be allowed to use the same spaces cis women use
There’s also more subtle ones such as people referring to cis women as real women, or referring to the transgender movement as gender ideology. The first one is wrong because trans women are real women, and the second one is wrong because transgender isn’t a religion or organization like a church. They are calling it an ideology so they can pretend there is an institution to fight against, in reality transgender people just exist and want to live our lives.
Bottom surgery done the correct way >>> penis cut off.
(I wish they’d let me get it 😭, well at least mine is much smaller than it was before I started estrogen)
It was actually estrogen, but yeah basically.
Yeah, it can be scary. That’s why it’s good to have safe spaces where you can be yourself and talk about these things. I sent you some links to communities that might be helpful, best part is, they’re right here on lemmy.
I really hope at some point you get to a point where you can feel comfortable expressing yourself in ways that match who you are. I’ll admit it does take some hard work, but the rewards are often worth it, they come in the form of self-acceptance and being happy with who you are.
would be a 6’3 trans woman with shoulders like an NFL linebacker, and likely in my mid to late 40s at best.
I know many people who felt that same way and they still pass wonderfully, yes it does take hard work and does take time. But it’s nowhere near as hopeless as it seems.
My family is never going to disown me, mind, I could burn down an orphanage on Christmas Eve and dance in the ashes and my mom would be livid, but that lady would love me and I’d be still welcome at dinner.
I’m glad to hear that your family is accepting. That’s more than I can say for my family. I haven’t talked to them in almost 7 years. They wanted nothing to do with me when I came out as trans, and were especially disgusted by the idea of me being on HRT. It’s nice to hear that your family will still accept you even if you choose to make changes.
I’m never going to feel comfortable in my own skin, so I figure I might as well be uncomfortable and still enjoy the benefits and privilege of cis white guy status. Do I hate my body? Yes. Do I wish I could change in fundamental ways that go far beyond simple weight loss or whatever? God yes. Do I realistically have the resources to make that happen and reach a point where I think I could like my body? No.
I used to feel a very similar way before my egg broke. I thought I could just push it down and live life as a normal cis boy. I couldn’t. The dysphoria eventually becomes unbearable. It can feel overwelming and hard to take the first steps, hard to make the first changes. I recommend taking things slow and starting with little things. Maybe you might not be ready for HRT but maybe try out some little social things that might make you happy, like makeup or nail polish, just something that feels gender affirming to you. You could even do these things in private. Just little things that can be first steps then take it slowly from there.
Oh God. I’ve never actually admitted any of this before, and I’m a little scared shitless right now. I seriously may delete this.
It’s okay if you want to talk to me about it more privately I can do it in DMs . If you want to reach out to others in the community here are some good communities that can help:
Discussion:
Memes:
If you want to speak in a more private place I’d recommend joining the Blahaj.zone group on Matrix, instructions on how to join that here: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15256176
Don’t worry, I’m happy to listen to it if it can help out a fellow transfem sister.
I guess that makes sense, not everyone is ready to face themselves at the present time. Though I know from being a stubborn egg growing up, it does eventually weigh on you. That’s why it’s a good idea to explore sooner. The most important thing is being able to live with yourself and be happy with yourself and your body, I’d suggest revisiting the idea in the future every now and again, eventually one day you might be ready, it can be scary and hard but it can also be rewarding.
Indeed it is, this person obviously had problems around their penis, personally I think it could’ve been gender dysphoria but it could’ve also been sexual trauma. Either way, shrooms alone aren’t going to make you want to cut your dick off. Gender dysphoria absolutely can and sometimes does make you feel that way though, take my word for it, dysphoria is no joke.
This shit is why I haven’t tried shrooms. I know it’s incredibly unlikely, but it’s just enough to scare the shit out me. I didn’t need my egg cracking during a trip and I try to do an at home, diy surgical transition.
I don’t think it’s likely unless you have really bad penis dysphoria already, believe me, you’ll know if you do. Though your egg cracking on a trip is still possible even if you don’t hate your penis, and that can be scary and uncomfortable. IMO best to do it while not tripping.
It’s likely they had strong genital dysphoria or other issues surrounding their penis. Most people don’t have the desire to cut off their penis, mushrooms or no mushrooms. I’ve had friends with bad dysphoria who did it, no mushrooms needed, but I can imagine someone also doing it while they’re high.
War on drugs is being fought in this comment section with downvotes and shitty fear mongering, and just that little bit of thinly veiled transphobia.
If you imagine and act on your own you’re going to be much less successful than if you also connect with others.