This is likely what happened. I think I’m gonna format the Windows SSD attached to the server (old install) and reinstall grub. Tomorrow, I guess. :(
Edit: Now that I’ve had a moment to think, I realized that I deleted grub. It was on another SSD that I wiped. It was on the SSD that my old OS was on that I wasn’t using anymore. But my actual Linux install came from another computer. So when I dropped it in what became my server, I installed grub manually on the old SSD (which has now been wiped) to boot to my Linux SSD.
It doesn’t matter if you care. What matters is that the people being referred to care how they are being referred. It’s literally 0 extra effort for you to use the pronouns they prefer. Just use the pronouns that they want. It doesn’t inconvenience you at all.