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  • Jimbob0i0@beehaw.orgtotraaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@lemmy.caI feel targeted
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    1 year ago

    My girlfriend pretty much shoved me into the fitting rooms the first time I went to buy a skirt… I was so very nervous showing the gal on the door the one item to try on.

    Fast forward a bit and I had a lovely experience at the Levi store … was looking for a new pair of jeans for a holiday. As I was looking at the various cuts I was unsure wear to pick up, as I wanted something more form fitting. My partner said that the female cut has very little crotch area though, so potentially an issue there… so was looking in the men’s section.

    Assistant in the store came over and offered help. I somewhat shyly mentioned that I was looking for someone a little tighter on the skin, and mentioned “I have a masc pair already” … their eyes pretty much lit up “Well you won’t find what you want on this side of the store” and pretty much dragged me over to the women’s section, and started pulling bits off the shelf and holding them up to me.

    “Well this is pretty much the equivalent of a mens 34 waist, what do you wear normally?”

    “Well my femme size in my clothing is usually a 16…”

    Again a slight grin… before rushing me over to the cubicles to try on the items they picked out…

    A very good eye they had… picked out a pair so comfy and I felt really good in. Was also just such an affirming experience.






  • Yes, when I’m out with my partner I have a preference to wear my collar.

    I’ve never had anyone comment about it or actively noticed a second glance scenario.

    I did have a staff member in hotel reception call me by my pet name instead of my actual name when they looked at it once…

    That said wearing it more often than not over the past year has incurred a fair amount of wear and tear.

    I recently picked up a couple of cute chokers to wear out and about instead though for casual use, with the collar explicitly for kinky events only.

    Less risk to my collar, and still have the same secure feeling of the binding around my neck.




  • Jimbob0i0@beehaw.orgtoFit Girls@lemmynsfw.comProposing New Rule
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    1 year ago

    It’s really not though…

    A trans woman is a woman… it’s that simple.

    Would the OP permit a pre-op trans man to post here just because they are AFAB?

    Is a T required for just pre-op trans women or all trans women?

    Does forcing them to mark themselves out as different encourage isolation and further the difficulties they are going through?







  • I think it also important to note that it wasn’t just the pricing itself, which was indeed already heinous, but that the rate calculation changed. It used to be a rate per user per app (apikey+oauth) but they changed that to just the per app … that then has a multiplicative effect on the costs and makes the “free tier” they were talking about especially pointless…

    It would be easy for an app to start at free tier … not have much growth through word of mouth but enough given the per app rates to push it over boundary points … and then be due a significant and unavoidable invoice in a couple of months…