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  • Okay, well don’t share them with people who you KNOW aren’t really your friends?

    I mean, it’s fine to bring them up with people who you don’t consider your friends YET (because otherwise, you may never know their opinion and miss out on potential friendships), but if you get shot down or made fun of and it’s clear that there is no interest, just switch topics and look for someone else to be friends with.


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    2 months ago

    Okay, I understand that, and that’s fine, everyone has people like that in their lives at some point.

    But if you KNOW they aren’t really your friends, why would you complain that they don’t act like they are?

    You can just ignore the first part of my advice (about not spending time with them) because it doesn’t apply to this situation, but you should probably still try and find people who you can actually be friends with based on your hobbies and interests.







  • Thanks, you just gave a perfect counterexample to what I’m talking about.

    First of all, I never said anything about it involving little to zero personal cost. Playing the lottery is the exact opposite because it’s 0.1% work and 99.9% hope. Personal responsibility is more like 90% work and 10% hope.

    Yes, I was being somewhat facetious about people enjoying their suffering, what I really meant is that they enjoy it more than the effort required for making a change. Your second example is a great illustration of that, because rather than looking ahead and watching out for signs of sharks (like a tailfin sticking out of the water), they’ll just keep going in their comfortable routine instead of changing course.

    Very often, looking ahead to check if you’re still on track to where you were originally going is all that’s required — if you notice the sharks (or the currents) before getting swept up in them, it’s still quite easy to change course. But people will rather commiserate over how difficult it is to wade through those currents instead of stopping for a moment to reassess their plans, and then complain some more when the sharks show up.