If you decide to have kids and choose to have a co-parent, rather being a single parent, choose a co-parent who also wants kids. Having kids with someone who doesn’t want them is cursing the kids to be raised by someone who doesn’t want them, which can have significant emotional consequences.

Being principled is not inferior, we’re being being pathologized for it because it is a threat to the corrupt powers. The existing power structures see this pattern as dangerous to them, because principled people are more likely to see through their bullshit and try to remake society in a way that is beneficial to all- which means removing evil from power. So, the powerful are using their influence in the media and medical establishment to consider principled behavior to be an undesirable symptom. So, we have to keep being principled. Keep caring. Keep resisting. Keep trying to create a better way. Keep trying to create networks, projects, and relationships based on real values, rather than harming each other, which only makes the established powers more powerful.

It’s wrong to ban trans women from women’s sports, because trans women are women.

acab

If someone feels the same about children and animals, and then decides to not become a parent as a result, that is a responsible choice. Not all parents like their children. Some parents develop a special bond but not all. Better for a person to have a few pets than create a human being they may end up losing interest in after a few months.

OP is saying that in their experience, holding a baby gives them the same hit of oxytocin as holding a cat or dog. OP has experienced holding both babies and cats and dogs. OP is talking about experiences that they have had. Your uncles was talking about taking a shit, an experience that he had, and giving birth, an experience that he has not had. That is the difference. OP is allowed to talk about their experiences. They’re not talking about other people’s experiences with children or claiming that their individual experiences are universal.

The original poster was talking about their own experience, not anyone else’s.

Immigration- Some countries will deny you the ability to immigrate if you are diagnosed at autistic.

Courts- If you have to deal with the legal system, there is the potential for a diagnosis to be used against you.

Police- Police are notoriously ableist, and if they know you’re autistic, it could put you in more danger than you’d be in otherwise.

Infantilization- The general public is very poorly informed about autism. Many people in the general public think of autistic people as being severely cognitively disabled. Even many people in medical professions, who would have access to your diagnosis information through your medical records, are very poorly informed and might treat you like a liar or as though you are incapable of making your own decisions.

Workplace discrimination- While you would not need to disclose that you are autistic at work, if your workplace found out, they could use that information to discriminate against you. Yes, it’s illegal and unethical, but workplaces do illegal and unethical things all the time. Also, it’s possible for workplaces to find legal ways to discriminate against people, and if they know about your diagnosis, they could try to discriminate against you for that. Also, if potential workplaces find out about your diagnosis through other means, like social media, they could use that information to decide not to hire you. Yes, that’s illegal, but it’s very difficult to prove.

Your parents are awful. You deserve so much better.

Wow, your family is being really shitty. You deserve better.

People treat mental health stuff like it doesn’t exist. Like if someone has a broken arm, and everyone tells them “Just stop having a broken arm!”

If only it was that easy

You make a good point about common advice often being too simplistic and generalized to be useful. And yeah, dating is rough. Glad you got better advice in the end.

I feel like the phrase “sleeping like a baby” was not created by someone who was a primary caretaker for a baby.

Thanks!

oof.

That’s fascinating. Do you have suggestions for any resources that talk about how to do this in a healthy way?

Glad you’re here with us

“The status quo is extremely unfair in my favor, get used to it pleb”

“Don’t be a quitter” is like saying “Fuck your boundaries. Stay in toxic situations no matter how bad they get.”