Yea, but being soft on myself also doesn’t work, and I just lose my patience with myself real quick because it’s annoying that I never get anything done.
if neither works then you might as well be kind to yourself, ne
I Can’t… :(
it’s hard work! I struggle with it myself, everyday
here’s a secret, though: you’re good, actually, even if you don’t Do Thing. I will believe this for you, even if your brain won’t
thanks :(
It’s might sound kinda silly but one thing that helped me be kinder to myself was thinking about how I treat others
I’d never treat people I cared about how I was treating myself so trying to be as kind to myself as I was to others was the goal I set for myself
And overtime it became easier and easier to be kind to myself about my short comings
Yeah I may fail to do all the tasks I set out for myself today but I did accomplish somethings
It may even be little things some days and other days it’s not a whole lot at all
But the kinder I was to myself the more I found myself able to do the things I set out to do
I still stumble some days but that’s okay
Thanks for these words. This is a smart point of view.
That reminds me of Rossmanns last video where he tells the story of how he discovered that he himself has also worth, especially compared to brokem apple computers.
I think the trick is to be kind to yourself but to try different methods to solve your issues until you find one that fits. For example, a lot of people are helped by just having a schedule beforehand, so that’s generally one of the first things that get recommended.
Been trying it for thirty years, maybe another thirty will do the trick! Persistence is key!
/s
Someone please sedate me…
SO much this! Thank you so much friend.
I’m still alive so it’s obviously not working.
I made this meme while screaming at myself: “WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU MAKING A MEME ABOUT THIS SHIT NOW INSTEAD OF JUST WORKING?!”
Straight up I’m on my 2nd break post nap since noon (literally less than 2 hours ago)
I’ve got so much crap to do today and I’m all out of function already
My day is already over. I should go to bed. But I still have shit to do. But I didn’t even start. I kindly ask you to shoot me, please.
"Hey bud, I know you’re having a hard time working right now, and that’s a pretty good meme but maybe let’s just set a stopwatch and do at least 15 minutes of work before going back to memes. Don’t keep an eye on the stopwatch but you can check it if you really feel like you want to check memes. Okay good luck. "
Best I can do, for some positive self talk
lol, funny meme
YOU BARELY HAVE ANY TIME LEFT! WHY ARE YOU SITTING THERE! GET THE FUCK UP! DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! GO! GO! GO! DO IT NOW! EEEY! FUCK YOU STUPID IDIOT! DO THE TASKS! YOU BARELY HAVE ANY TIME LEFT! WHY ARE YOU SITTING THERE! GET THE FUCK UP! DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! GO! GO! GO! DO IT NOW! EEEY! FUCK YOU STUPID IDIOT! DO THE TASKS! YOU BARELY HAVE ANY TIME LEFT! WHY ARE YOU SITTING THERE! GET THE FUCK UP! DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! GO! GO! GO! DO IT NOW! EEEY! FUCK YOU STUPID IDIOT! DO THE TASKS!
Hey let’s all respond to this thread with whatever we’re currently procrastinating.
I’ll go first:
Pooping. Gym. Shower. Sleep.
I’d like to get up and take a shower now so I can start my day. That has been the plan for the past hour.
sometimes I get randomly motivated and I cannot control when or how, but somehow your comment motivated me to stop procrastinating and I just sprang into action and the last 30 minutes were quite productive. I owe it all to you. Thank you.
How can you guys procrastinate eating? If anything, when I’m bored, i eat, each and every single time. Honestly asking, how would it work for a person like me
I don’t understand how your comment was in response to my comment.
It was just random too. By chance it was structured like a sentence.
edit: typo
You were just random?
I meant it lol
If I can still hear you badgering me to do shit then my techno isn’t loud enough.
True!
I feel personally attacked
why u hate me?
I worked with a guy that had ADHD. He was smart, but couldn’t finish anything. He left a mess of the lab, never put tools back, didn’t see a single one of his projects to completion. We had to let him go, he wasn’t cheap either. At one point I asked if he was on medication he said “no bro it fucked me up, I took it and I spent all day fixing a motorcycle instead of studying for my final and I failed the class…”
I feel bad because his condition literally prevented him from accomplishing basic job functions, but wtf else are we supposed to do? We are engineers not mental health specialists or day care workers, we are busy and have just enough pay and resources to do our own jobs, not sit around and babysit a grown man who can’t focus on easy things. We have our own lives and kids to worry about, and this guy won’t even take medication.
I feel bad because his condition literally prevented him from accomplishing basic job functions, but wtf else are we supposed to do? We are engineers not mental health specialists or day care workers, we are busy and have just enough pay and resources to do our own jobs, not sit around and babysit a grown man who can’t focus on easy things. We have our own lives and kids to worry about, and this guy won’t even take medication.
The real problem is the super structure that wasn’t made to accept the divergent. If we really care about all people we should bring this down and propose a new drive for production instead of profit.
In general I agree with you. The particulars of this situation are more difficult to reconcile with that utopian motherhood argument. This was at a federal national laboratory. No profits at all. The main driver is technical progress, it requires people who are independent self-starters. There are ever shrinking budgets, harsh competition, and difficult beaurocratic hurdles to deal with on top of the difficult nature of the work itself. There is no money or department that provides someone to go around and keep an eye on the neurodivergent people and making sure they’re on track and doing their work and helping them cope with their difficulties in managing their needs. Perhaps someday in the future there will be such a program and funding but right now there is not.
I really do feel sad about the reality for ADHD people because it’s a particular set of challenges that affects a great deal of things in one’s life. You wouldn’t want a neurosurgeon with hand tremors operating on you. You wouldn’t want a person with no arms to be in charge of sorting things at a factory. And you don’t want somebody who can’t be organized and work efficiently while using taxpayer money to do research at a national laboratory. that’s literally unfair to the taxpayer and goes against the entire mission of the national laboratory. It’s just really hard to accept that someone isn’t fit for this job. It’s hard enough when somebody just isn’t a good fit due to personality issues but when they have a neurodivergency that affects them and they have the desire to be this kind of engineer it’s just sad but there’s very little to do about it at least in the present environment.
mate this is not the place for this
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fucking @ me next time
