This started a few days ago. I’ve been getting texts from friends with iPhones in the wrong order, and seemingly they are getting mine late. So I texted a friend whose grandmother was in the hospital yesterday, and her conversation with me looked like this. These texts from her arrived around a minute apart each. I think the intended order of them is fairly obvious. It’s worth noting that every time I send her a text, the read receipt line under the text shows a little clock for a few seconds or more, which I think means it hasn’t been recieved by her phone yet. Also worth noting that I had a conversation using the same stock messaging app with my mom yesterday who has an android and I don’t think we had any such issue, but that may have actually been RCS.
Anyway, here’s the example. It’s not the only example I’ve had with her or with another iPhone-using friend in the past couple days.
Me: Hey, how’s your day? Any updates about your grandma?
Her (a few hours later): I feel relieved
Me: does that mean you got good news?
Her: how was your day?
Her: yeah
Me: my day was good, (proceeds to describe what I did that day)
Her: my family feels relieved too
Me: what was the good news? Your grandma is okay?
Her: Hey $bionicjoey, I didn’t get much sleep last night but I just heard that the doctors say my grandma is out of danger.
Edit: I texted her last night saying something weird was going on after that exchange, and then this morning at about 7:30 AM I texted her saying “let me know as soon as you get this”. She just texted me at 2:30pm saying “I just am just now seeing your texts”
Same sitch, it happens off and on. I’m on Android, most of my extended family is on iPhone (except my brother). Our group texts are generally fine, but like 10% of the time these weird things happen where messages are out of order, or don’t go through at all.
I think as others have said it’s just SMS/MMS vs. iMessage, and until there’s any semblance of a unified protocol, this is what we have to deal with.
Mostly it’s just a nuisance, but missing picking someone up at the airport because of it one time was not a good thing.
Yeah or if the girl I’m dating is telling me that her grandmother with a medical emergency that caused her to stay up all night waiting for updates from her family and just got cleared from the hospital and my response is “so is your grandma okay?”
The world really needs to move away from SMSes…
It looks like Apple adopting rcs is a step in the right direction. But I don’t trust them not to screw it up on purpose.
The cell network controls SMS/MMS delivery. iPhones use iMessage between iPhone users unless the user forces it into SMS mode. That would explain why you got it late.
Why would it change all of a sudden though? Her and I have been texting with no latency or mixed up message delivery for like a month and the problem only appeared this week.
It could be carrier related - shout out to that time a bunch of Valentine’s Day texts arrived in November
So it might not even be my personal carrier, it might be some lower level carrier that my carrier is connected to… That’s annoying.
More info if helpful: I’m on a Fairphone 4, I’m in Canada, my carrier is Freedom Mobile, I’m on Android 13, I’m using the stock “Messages” app. I’ve had normal SMS conversations with both of the iPhone friends, so this is new.
I’ve had MFA token code delays with the AOSP messages app for whatever reason.
Qksms seems to be reliable, though I’m not sure it’s very actively maintained. Other third party SMS apps could work better for you, though.
