I didn’t say it’s impossible, I said that it’s rare enough to be considered a mental illness. Perhaps not so much on the Internet, but the fact that there are clearly two people physically having a discussion made me assume that this particular conversation happened IRL, not online.
And yes, I certainly have experienced similar — basically in any gender-based discussion on Lemmy there’ll be people trying to curse and attack you unless you always 100% take the female side of the issue, which I won’t do because men have a right to be men. It’s certainly true that there are a ton of things they can do to improve, but consider that every day, new people show up to the same old topics and they have to go through their own learning process as well.
In short, the basic rule of online discussion should be to never ever take anything personally because unless you know the other person IRL, it most certainly isn’t.
Avoiding slurs is good, but you’re still claiming that her experience is impossible because you’ve never experienced the same thing.
I didn’t say it’s impossible, I said that it’s rare enough to be considered a mental illness. Perhaps not so much on the Internet, but the fact that there are clearly two people physically having a discussion made me assume that this particular conversation happened IRL, not online.
And yes, I certainly have experienced similar — basically in any gender-based discussion on Lemmy there’ll be people trying to curse and attack you unless you always 100% take the female side of the issue, which I won’t do because men have a right to be men. It’s certainly true that there are a ton of things they can do to improve, but consider that every day, new people show up to the same old topics and they have to go through their own learning process as well.
In short, the basic rule of online discussion should be to never ever take anything personally because unless you know the other person IRL, it most certainly isn’t.