Maybe i don’t quite understand. I just hope that i didn’t hurt your feelings with what i said, just because i was unaware of your strong feelings on this topic. If so, then we’d have a complicated situation which also involves slight differences in language and culture. I could not sincerely apologise, and such things might happen again.

Apologising would be wrong, but there are ways to sympathise with the other and at the same time staying at eye level.

Here is where i come from:
I have been on both sides. Being constantly hurt by people not being sensitive enough, and seeing that as their responsibility, hence making them responsible for my feelings. OTOH, falsely apologising too much, saying “sorry” when there was no need to, and therefore being self-degrading.

During my process i came to the conclusion that both is not right. There is no “crime of offending”, so to say – not even if an offence was intended (but that’s the advanced “peaceful warrior” class). It is in fact my own “ego” that was (falsely) alarming me of being attacked. (The word “ego” is antiquated but shall suffice here.)
The others do as they do, so it is up to me to actually decide if i want to feel hurt or not. Therefore, it is indeed in the receivers responsibility (ability to respond!). Talking about adults of course; it’s different with minors. –
I found out that i am free to choose if i want to feel offended or not. So i chose not to but instead try to get a better understanding of the sender. It became very hard to hurt my feelings because i can “shield” my receiver, to find it rather interesting to get to look into other people’s sets. (Conflict situations play a valuable part when i do process/shadow work with others.) – I also feel the need to apologise very rarely; mostly when i was really being ignorant, and i often remind others that there is nothing to apologise about when there was just some misunderstanding or such.

I read that comment chain again which you are referring to, and had to read it twice because there seemed to be a contradiction. So if you don’t mind, i can tell what discrepancy there is. May this help solve the puzzle. Here is what i see happen:

• The sender does some action or says something, ignorant or unknowing of the fact that their action can hurt you. They had no intention to do so, and the receiver acknowledges that.
• Still, the receiver feels hurt.
• The receiver als acknowledges that the sender can not be forced to apologise because such an apology would be false. Demanding it could lead to the sender going offensive and telling the receiver to just “cope with it”.

I solved this for myself by replacing the middle part. If there was no offence intended, then i can choose not to be hurt, but react in a different way. The best way to go is open communication if possible: “I know you didn’t mean it and i’m not blaming you, but i must let you know that you just met a very sensitive point in me. I would like to tell you …”

But! … There is another desire here at play, and that appears to be the receiver’s need that their feelings be addressed in a comforting way. An apology will not really have that effect anyway; that rather works toward building awareness in the sender. I think what the receiver desires is being helped back on their feet rather than the sender being knocked to the ground for revenge. Therefore, this is asking not for a feel of guilt – but for compassion. 🙂

LOL
Sorry i like to edit my comments so much …
OTOH, that cartoon shows a child/teenager vs. an adult. That considered, the adult should perhaps take a more sensitive and comforting approach.