• stereofony@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    From a fellow trans person: I know you mean well, but shame/ridicule is the least effective agent of change. This kind of attitude I hear not just from you but other leftist queer friends just straight up leaves a bad taste in people’s mouths and does nothing to convince folks of your cause, no matter how good your intentions are. To quote a Tshirt I once saw: Kindness is more punk rock than a middle finger.

    Collective care and justice should be rooted in compassion, not denigration and superiority complexes.

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      1 year ago

      superiority complexes.

      TIL needing to mask for health reasons is a superiority complex.

      I’m not going to address any of the rest of your comment except to say, stop tone policing a shitpost. The point was to vent about a genuine frustration, not to convince anyone. And just don’t tone police in general.

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        Sorry, but somewhere along the way in leftist circles, “don’t tone police me” became synonymous with “I’m allowed to be as shitty as I want to other people because of my trauma” and that’s the behavior I can’t get down with. Trauma is an explanation, not an excuse.

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      yeah we are pretty pro-bullying people who are doing shitty things over on hexbear, this isn’t going to land

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          we are of the same mind on this. frankly, i don’t care in the slightest about the feelings of people who won’t put any effort into protecting the lives of others.

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          i get you, my issue is that we’re beyond the event horizon, you know? these people have had the explanations. they don’t care, and their not caring kills innocent people. as far as i’m concerned, it’s open season on shitheads.

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      To quote a Tshirt I once saw: Kindness is more punk rock than a middle finger.

      Wow. Everything you said before this swayed me but this is such an awesome statement that I had to say thanks for expanding my vernacular.