Please tell me if I’m the asshole here. But holy crap. I know mod’s get a bad wrap rap but wow do the mods seem WAY more petty and petulant here.

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    Got permabanned from NCD for asking a mod not to post porn on a non-nsfw community lol. Not after a long discussion, a single comment of “yo I don’t like this and I’m out if this is gonna be a porn community.” That doesn’t strike me as notably different from mod behaviour since the beginning of the internet though. At the end of the day they’re just online HOA presidents expressing pointless authority for the sake of feeling in control of something

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    Sorry you had that experience.

    Even if you are an asshole you are presumably the same asshole. So maybe there is a difference in the moderators?

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    Which Lemmy instances?

    I’ve found the lemmy.ml instances are quick to mod/ban anyone who doesn’t immediately agree with them/fall in line or disprove them in any ways.

    So far, it’s only been limited to them, but I’ve heard hexbear isn’t better (but I don’t see them much in general so can’t truly say).

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      You can check the mod log if you want exact context for my post. Didn’t want to call out any one community or instance. But also, I’ve had .ml blocked whole sale for a while now. Hexbear is probably on the block next for me. Saw a post saying a book about Russia losing the space race was ‘copium’ and I just kinda sighed.

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    Considering one mod on Reddit accused me of sharing cp, despite the fact the only pictures I ever posted were of me and my wife, and we’re both nearly 40, I’m gonna have to disagree there. I’m permanently banned because of that bullshit.

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    wrap
    “rap” as in: RAP sheet -> Record of Arrests and Prosecutions

    Inb4 banned for misspelling.

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    Most of us are assholes to someone in some way.

    Anyway, what you and mods value are different so it might seem petty and petulant, but it’s really more a matter of importance.

    You don’t think what you say is important enough to warrant a ban, the mods disagree. And because they’re mods, their opinion matters more than yours which is why it feels unfair. It’s not. You’d act the same way on matters of importance to you in the same position.

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    This may have to do with the specific forums you are visiting. Other then when I played on .ML for a while (before I knew what it was), I’ve really never had any mod interactions, certainly not bad ones.

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    Nope, same. No rules broken or harassment to hide behind, just “I disagree with you, I can delete your comment, so I will”, basically.

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    I don’t have any interactions with them, but I’ve noticed that a lot of comments get deleted just because the mod doesn’t personally like them.

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    I’ve had exactly the opposite experience, I’ve had some pretty wild takes and no interaction with mods whatsoever, federated systems make it easy to take your ball and play on another playground.

    Reddit mods were always pretty heavy handed for the niches I spent time in.

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      Same. And not just mods but reddit users in general are so damn childish. It’s such a breath of fresh air to be here.

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        reddit users in general are so damn childish.

        Inb4 you remember hexbears favorite reply when logically cornered is a cartoon pig shitting on its own balls.

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    Small spaces have their pros and cons, I can definitely see that being a downside.

    And lemmy has a much more ideologically driven culture which probably plays into things

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    I’ve been called slurs and been banned for being new on reddit, I’ve not had many issues here. Hence I’m here and not on reddit.

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    I’m permabanned from Reddit so honestly I like the moderation better here. I haven’t even been banned from a sub.

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        Yeah well I tried to pick one that was federated with the most high population instances. Plus these guys haven’t banned me for talking about eating the rich so that’s a step up from Reddit.

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      I think I have like 2 sub bans here, and only one on Reddit when I "and my ax"ed in a thread that a mod decided was bad but couldn’t articulate the logic after the fact.

      I can be a little gen-x here, and maybe that’s what got me 2 bans. With absolutely zero review and option to defend myself, I’m only guessing which of my generally snarky comments crossed someone’s line and why. Not conducive to awareness and correction.