a lot of the time, iām either busy doing something where i literally cannot respond or overstimulated.
when iām overstimulated, i physically cannot talk or barely register what someoneās saying. i also have trouble understanding out loud speech for some reason, where iām listening but canāt process the words.
when my sister asks or says something, i often ask her to repeat it because itās a lot of information. she says something like ānever mind, you donāt care anyway, itās not importantā when i ask to be repeated.
she doesnāt care when i told her why i need it to be repeated.
she also thinks iām mad at her all the time, gets frustrated when i donāt talk (because im incapable), and starts talking badly about herself when i donāt laugh at her humor (which consists of loud screeching and tiktok ābrainrotā words)
since then, i decided to feign laughter so sheāll not think iām upset with her.
i do try to be there for my sister, but thereās times where i cannot or just canāt talk.
There was this really great podcast (whose name escapes me now) about a therapist who deals with serial killers, and some come from rich background and some come from poor backgrounds, and some were beaten by their carers and some werenāt beaten at all. No particular trigger or remorse for why they did what they did, just a vague sense of curiosity
One thing a lot of them did have in common though is neglect. You could have a kid who is completely pampered from the moment theyāre born, but if they never receive any love or meaningful attention, any visible sign that their thoughts and feelings are valid, and that theyāre not just a visitor in their own world, then that continual act of neglect is greater than any kind of physical abuse they might get.
So, um, yeahā¦ your post just, uh, yeah. Yep.
lol what a fucking stupid thing to say
hahaha glad someone liked it
While youāre pop psyching over there ya might want to look up āparentificationā
I did, how does that apply here?
your comment is heavily intimating that the 18 year old would be responsible if the 13 year old turned out to be damaged from neglect. That duty does not fall on siblings. it falls on parents. By shifting that responsibility you are attempting to make the sibling the parent in this dynamic.
Oh no, I wasnāt trying to put the blame on the 18yo - I was just saying that neglect is one of the worst forms of abuse there is, whomeverās shoulders that may lie on
thank you so much :)